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Never Judge A Book By It’s Cover

Today Lovebug and I made a trip to get the Saturn an oil change before we hit the road to visit family in Iowa.  Yes, we have to drive an hour to get our oil changed, another perk of living in the boonies. I can’t complain because my hunk of a husband drives that far to and from work daily.

Not going to lie, there are times I look at my daughter and I am so overcome with joy it takes my breath away.  Other times I am not sure I can be around her for another minute without losing my shit!  I got nervous when I overheard a salesman say how busy the Service Center was.  In my head I instantly thought we would be there forever and was bummed because I forgot my flask if it did get ugly. J  She was SUCH a good girl at the dealership and we were there for a good hour and a half.  My little entertainer had everyone in stitches, she was shaking what her mama gave her and talking Chinese to the group.

There was an older man in the group that had suffered bad burns on his face.  He was getting such a kick out of her.  At one point Laney went specifically up to him and was giving him lots of love, and it made my heart melt.  When I first noticed him, I prayed to god she would not treat him any differently or act distant.  I know there will be a point in time when questions or comments may arise out of pure curiosity when someone may appear different.  I hope we can be discreet as possible when situations like that come up because I hate to hurt someone’s feelings.  Knowing kids and the crazy things they say, that could be impossible.

I feel my parents did an amazing job instilling in me to treat each and every person alike, and always put myself in their shoes.  My nana always said “never judge a book by it’s cover”.  I know-totally cliché; unfortunately, the older I get the more I realize how cruel people can be.  Most only care about themselves and talking about people.  I have a diverse, eclectic group of friends who I value, adore and respect them for who they are.

One parenting goal we have is to do the same for our kids.  Yes, I said kids/plural.  No need to get excited, baby #2 is not in my belly or even on the agenda at this point.  Another goal is to raise a respectful, well mannered family.  I learned that you cannot just teach people morals and values, you need to be the example and it has to start at a young age.

  1. Nicole Reply
    So true - everyone should be treated the same! Great entry.
    • Marissa Reply
      Thanks Nicole-so sorry I just now saw your comment now. I hope I can make enough of an impact on my children for them to live by that philosophy as well!
  2. gail Reply
    my mother used to say,don't judge people who are mean to you because you never know what's going on in their lives or what they have had to deal with. try to set an example for them and maybe it will give them something to think about and model. God bless you mom in heaven. missing my angel i love yur golden rule attitude. lovingkindness will save our world and bring peace for all.
    • Marissa Reply
      Everyone has bad days, that is why whenever I am out somewhere I try to put a smile on my face no matter what when I see other people. You would be surprised how many days you can impact and brighten. Other people just look like you are crazy!
  3. Tina Reply
    Love this Marissa! And I agree - manners are EVERYTHING when it comes to kids!
    • Marissa Reply
      Thanks Tina! Your children are seriously some of the must well behaved, well mannered kids I have ever met. Have to give credit to their mom and dad!
  4. Kelsey Reply
    Marissa I love that you have a BLOG!!!!! I will read it all the time.
    • Marissa Reply
      YEAH! Thanks Kels, now I think you can qualify me as "OLD". This will prepare you for the day you have kids (which should be a long time for now). Please pass along the website and our facebook page. I had 101 likes when I woke up this morning so I'm so excited!

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